Sep 24 2008
A Mother’s Determination
All it takes is the determination of one angry mother to solve a problem. Yes, my oldest daughter’s problem at school has now been resolved. She spoke with her school counselor about the issue and made sure to let said counselor know that Mommy would be up there Monday morning if it wasn’t taken care of this week. Soooooo…..
It was taken care of today! And quite satisfactory if I do say so myself.
Seriously though, people out there need to know that raising a girl to be critical of other females is not only wrong, but it is detrimental to their daughter, as well as the ones she teases and bullys. Most of the girls who pick at other girls are simply unhappy with their own bodies, lives, circumstances and they think that making others miserable will make them feel better. That doesn’t work. Those girls will eventually turn into lonely adults because no one will want to be around such negative people.
If you find that your daughter is being harassed in school, then take the necessary steps to point out that you’re there to help and if it doesn’t get resolved then you’re more than happy to step in and take care of it yourself. This could mean speaking to the teachers, the counselor, the principal, or even to the higher ups in order to get the inappropriate actions stopped. Usually things will be taken care of as soon as you speak to a teacher about it, but if that doesn’t help then it’s time to move on to the next person of authority.
Don’t just stand back and take the “kids will be kids” bull that some will spew at you. Yes, kids may be kids, but your kid doesn’t have to be tormented, belittled, or made to feel less than normal. Our girls have enough to deal with when it comes to body image just from the media, without having to deal with it at school where they’re there to get an education.
Just remember that an angry mother’s determination can do anything if you know how to use it to your advantage. 
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AW! I had to go back to read the original post. Poor kid! I was on the opposite end at that age…Flat chested! I’m still not the busty, but my best friend bloomed early too. She was 10 with a B cup. She got teased a lot too. She gave it right back to them and she had a friend that would beat the boys up! Me.
I was always the defender of the under dog and fighter of bullies. If you picked on anyone, but especially one of my friends, I’d have you by the neck and slammed against the wall before you could blink. The teachers would verbally scold me and then wink as they walked away. I knew they had to do the scolding, but they really approved of handling the bullying myself.
I think I would be just as hardass as you say you are if I had daughters.
I bet the girls picking on her are flat chested. I wonder, do the boys pick on her? Or snap her bra? My friend got a lot of that back then. On one hand, kids will be kids, but on the other hand, the only way to stop them from being kids and becoming caring adults is to teach them compassion and consideration for others.
Good for you! I’m glad it was resolved.
~Kelly
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I have boys, but my oldest was being bullied towards the end of the school year last year. He came home with bruises. I was pissed, but he didn’t want me or his father to speak to the school. He was afraid that it would make it worse. We respected that and he handled it well enough that it ended. He knew he had our support, no matter what the outcome was and I believe that gave him the confidence to stand up for himself.
I’m glad your daughter’s situation was resolved. Even a woman scorned has nothing on a pissed off mother
I would say kids are mean but that doesn’t stop one from taking action. There is a right way and a wrong way. You did it the great way, letting your daughter take control first and offering to step in only if needed. Way to go letting her take charge of her life! I know there was a life lesson in there for her.